Think about how a menu actually works. It's a list of what's on offer, and you don't have to invent a thing — you just see what's there and point. Not that. Not that. Oh — that. Desire works the same way. Nobody pulls it out of a blank page, but show someone options and it gets obvious fast.

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So here's the move, and it's simpler than you'd think. You build your menu — the things that are on the table from you: what you're into, curious about, up for. Then you put it out there. Could be year fifteen of a marriage, could be a first date. And you see who wants a bite.

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That's a Menu of Desire: you stop hiding what you want and start putting it on the table — and you find out who's hungry for it.